Here are my top ten moments, new
experiences, novels, podcasts and things that have changed my life for the
better in my 2017.
(N.B. Not all things are necessarily new to 2017, but they're new to me).
1) The Elis James & John Robins Radio X Podcast
This naturally felt like the
first thing to talk about as I got into this podcast at the start of the year
and it affected all of the other choices in both direct and indirect ways. This
has made a huge impact on my
life (for example, I am now on Email – you simply have to be these days).
Elis James & John Robins do their weekly Radio X show which goes out as
podcast and they’re instantly funny and they do captivating features. Initially these
comedians seem jovial and innocuous, but they offer so much more than what’s on
the surface. This podcast has the
serious power to pick you up when you are down and build you back up. They are
supportive and caring. Plus they also give you tons of amazing new music to
explore and books to read. They are like your cool older brother giving you advice on
life.
2) John Burnside – I Put A Spell On You (Book)
What. A. Book. Scottish Poet, John
Burnside writes a memoir about his young forays into love,
glamour, romance and everything in between. These memoirs are intercut with digressions about the inner-weavings of love in society. Burnside
portrays an illustrious image of what realistic romance is and the awkward moments in-between. This book beautifully portrays teenage
folly and the false idealisation of love and has given me great things to
consider in my own love-life.
“To master the art of losing, we
must be willing to consider ourselves lucky when whatever god we address
answers our prayers by refusing them, so that something more interesting can
happen” – John Burnside.
3) 100 ACTS OF MORALITY & KINDNESS (My stand-up show)
At the start of the year, I created a new show stand-up show called '100 Acts Of Morality &
Kindness'. It was about going out into the world to see if I
could become the world’s most moral person. It required me to complete an array of kind
acts to try and create a positive impact in the world. I was certainly ambitious.
This led to me giving blood for
the first time, boycotting unethical foods & brands, AND I went on my first
every protest in February. These 100 acts firmly placed me outside of my
comfort zone however I felt so much better within myself. I realised that I
liked helping others (but at that time, I wasn’t really taking care of myself).
From the acts themselves, the
stand-up show was born. I created an hour about some of the funniest moments of
the project. And I did a run of gigs at festivals around the UK which were some
of my all-time favourite stand-up shows I’ve ever done. In particular, I
performed at the Swindon Fringe Festival in April 2017 and every moment felt
magical and the audience were instantly on-board. It felt marvelous to do a
show which was very close to my heart and for people to relate to it. One of my
crowning stand-up achievements.
4) Sherlock Holmes: The Definite Collection by Sir Arthur Conan
Doyle (Audiobook, read by Stephen Fry).
This audiobook is better than sex
(I imagine). 70 hours of Stephen Fry retelling every Sherlock Holmes case. I
never really watched any Sherlock, but was recommended the books. Buying the
audiobook was the best decision: The
books have amazing language and is performed perfectly by Fry. Every case comes
alive with the awe-striking skills of Holmes & Watson: I was enamored
immediately.
(Also I really enjoyed that some of
language hasn’t aged well: whenever Watson (the narrator) gets excited on a crime scene he
says “ ‘WONDERFUL’, I ejaculated’ ”, which must be a nightmare when you are
dealing with DNA evidence).
5) Searching For Sugar Man (Documentary)
One of my favourite documentaries.
It may be the only documentary I’ve ever watched which isn’t tragic, but is
really joyful and incredibly positive. To not ruin the story: an obscure
American Singer called Rodriguez released some unknown albums in the 1970’s and
vanished from the scene. His music miraculously made it over to South Africa in
which he was revered as a giant star. South African fans search to see what
happened to their favourite artist. The ending is spectacular.
The soundtrack for documentary exclusively features Rodriguez’s songs and it will have you buying the album at the end
of the documentary (
“Like Janis” is my favourite for the lyrics alone. The bassline for
"I Wonder" is equally amazing). If you
need a pick-me-up and a great story, you’ll find it here.
6) Wrote a play
I wrote a play about what
if Romeo and Juliet hadn’t killed themselves but went on to live in a loveless
marriage and a guy called Will Shakespeare writes play about their life which makes them famous. The title of play is called “Stars
(Cross Lovers)”; a title which so punny that I literally high-fived myself
afterwards. I wrote it just for fun, but
after getting in touch with Alphabetti Theatre in Newcastle, they invited my piece to be
performed at their Writeback night in October.
It was a weird play,
but it felt really amazing that I was able to be funny in a different way than
just me being on stage. It was an honour and a privilege that others had
bothered to get involved and be engaged with something that I had written. I
was flattered entirely through the process.
A cultural high-point for me.
7) Got
fully naked at a gig
A cultural low-point for me.
I was in at a New Act of the year
competition during August. The audience were a little hard: they were enjoying
themselves but they weren’t really laughing out loud. I was on 6th and
I was the final one on in the second section.
I did my opening jokes with absolutely no response. I
panic and say “Erm… I don’t think I have won the competition” – a big laugh. Phew. I gave
up on jokes: So I offer them a simple offer: “I’ve not won this, and I’ve got 5
minutes left on the clock – we can do whatever you like for the remainder of
the time”.
Immediately a man menacingly shouts “TAKE
YOUR TOP OFF!”. We laugh and I agree! I take off my shirt. We laugh and I try
to move on, but the same man shouts “TAKE OFF YOUR TROUSERS”. I consider this,
then try to rebuke this. But before I get a chance to shut down the request,
the man at the sound desk started to play Tom Jones’ “You Can Leave Your Hat
On”. And then I wasn’t in control anymore. My comedy spirit started to strip to
the music as the madness grew. The crowd loved it. I took of my clothes and
threw them at audience members. I started to strip like Magic Mike. Maybe I was
born to do this? This is obviously my calling. I was down to my underwear and
the crowd wanted to see it off (I imagine).
The voice inside my head said “Matt, you have gone far enough, you are a
respected comedian and artiste. You have dignity. You don’t need to get naked just for a cheap
laugh” and as I was thinking that, I reached for my shoe to cover up my
privates as I started taking off my pants and I finished the gig naked.
I didn’t win.
“Definitely not something easily
forgotten...” - Peter Fox – Notts Comedy Review.
Come and see me perform in 2018 guys!
8) Trevor Sensor – Andy Warhol’s Dream (Album)
Trevor Sensor is an American
songwriter who has the most amazing voice. He released his debut album this
year at the supple age of 23. 23!!!! I just turned 24 and I feel very intimidated at his
mindblowing talents. I need to do more in my life. His album is a belter (although his EPs are some of my
favourite songs in the world). Great album and treat from start to finish. This
is the first track from the album:
9) Danny Wallace - Yes Man (Book)
This is the most clichéd item on
this list, but it’s still significant. Yes
Man takes the unadventurous and introverted
humourist, Danny Wallace, to challenge himself to say “YES” to
everything. This experiment is at the detriment of his wallet, but pays him
back with experience, a new lease on
life and eventually a wife. It was later turned into a Jim Carey films (Swings
and roundabouts, I suppose).
It’s an obvious message, but a
really important one for me this year. For so many years of my life I declined
so many opportunities for such trivial reasons. I didn’t go out with friends and I didn’t
experience things as I was "too busy". I didn’t go on dates – but that was
largely because no one fancied me – but the point still remained. But Yes Man (and all of Danny Wallace’s
books) really inspired me to see and be more involved within the world. You can
change your world by using a single world.
“Yes” can make you happy.
10) Decided to see a Mental Health Counselor
At the end of 2016, I was depressed and had been for months. I
hated myself and everything within the world. I couldn’t conceive of being happy again. In March, I went to get professional help. This is, without a doubt, the
best thing I have ever done; Without therapy, I really wouldn’t be here
right now.
I have never felt better in my
life. The last six months of my life is happiest I have ever been. My Counselor gave me perspective on the things, whilst understanding and counteracting my existential
dread. What was most admirable, is
that she actually listened, in a genuinely engaging and honest way.
Every
session, I learned something significant about myself and how I operated. It
was like being given cheat-codes to my own life. It gave me hope,
self-confidence and eventually it gave me happiness again. I could begin to
stop taking life so seriously and enjoy the little things. I’m now able find joy in so much
more. I appreciate every moment.
This list is a celebration of the things I would have
missed if I didn’t receive counselling. It’s a testament that you can improve
your mental health despite being in the darkest depths. Your happiness can be found in a range of amazing sources. The past is something I’m continually
getting over, but I’m striving for the future. I am like Janus, perpetually
looking behind myself and gleefully looking towards the future.
When times are tough for you: Be
like Janus. Remind yourself of your past, keep in sight what is important to
you and keep moving forward.
Be like Janus and never give up when
life seems so against you – life will always get better (even if you’re name
has"anus" in it).
Be like Janus and don’t let the world bring you down and eventually you'll learn the tools about surviving transition and changing for the better.
Being like Janus means that we
are all rooting for you to do more than just to “survive”. We can’t wait to see
you thrive, be alive and get happy. The world is always a better place with you
in it.
And we can’t wait to see you
enjoy 2018. The past doesn’t have all answers, so enjoy the exploration of what
you’re trying to find.
Take care of yourselves. Thanks
for reading.